In this Self-Care Guide you’ll find 30 beautiful pages filled with inspiration, and practical strategies, to help you come back to yourself. Too often we are everything to everyone else and we can lose ourselves in the process. We end up disconnected from ourselves. Weeks, months and years can go by so easily like this….whilst being numb to your own existence.
As a human being you can withstand great pains but being disconnected from yourself will slowly eat at you in a way that nothing else does. No amount of money or ‘things’ can mask it for long. You’ll begin soul searching, knowing it’s time to head home and live true to your spirit.
It’s taken me a long time to learn that self-care isn’t about things you do for yourself like taking a bubble bath. Self-care is actually about changing your mindset to prioritise yourself in your own life…treating yourself with love and compassion, creating boundaries and making empowered choices, and filling yourself up first.
I initially turned to researching self-care strategies and rituals for myself, however, as I began to explore further, I noticed that many women around me were complaining about the same issues. I then had a string of coaching clients crippled with the disease to please and in self-wounding patterns. It was as though now that I could see this pattern playing out in full-effect within me, I began to see it everywhere around me – I suddenly saw, that a lack of self-care amongst women, was an epidemic(!) and it was impacting all areas of our lives, from our careers to relationships, to money and our health!
According to Psychologist Dr Frances Praver, “too many women are modern day martyrs – they give too much, suffer too much, burden themselves unnecessarily, and blame themselves when things go wrong. When women weigh themselves down by the needs and desires of others, there is a slow, silent death occurring – that or they will explode.”
The insights in this guide are backed by research. You will learn what it really means to take care of and honour yourself. You can only become empowered and confident and able to step into your personal leadership when you prioritise your self. As they say, fill your cup first otherwise you’ll have nothing to give to others.
Understanding self-care, and learning how to apply it, is needed in order to transform…..and applying it is a life-long journey of practising and building new ways of being and living in the world. When you take care of yourself you’ll allow yourself to make a different choice, a truer choice, a more empowered choice. Once you’ve made one empowered choice, it becomes easier to make another. This is how you can change your life. Our lives are created one choice at a time.
This Self Care Starter Guide has been designed to provide you with practical ways to make changes in your life. I have selected the top seven strategies from my research. These seven strategies helped me to understand what was driving my self-sabotaging behaviour and how I could unlock new options and choices for myself.
Whilst it’s important to know the research behind self-care and acquire the knowledge, without implementing and grounding our new insights into new behaviour, we won’t make any changes at all, therefore I have created a self-care planning template and daily check-in template which you can print multiple copies of to use each day – I hope it will help you to capture your insights and inspire you to make more authentic choices for yourself.
Your Self Care Starter Guide also includes a section on how to Develop your own Self Care Plan. You will find instructions on how to develop your own self-care plan along with a self-care planning template + a daily check-in template which you can print multiple copies of to use each day.
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Özlem's work empowered me to reflect, reconsider and reconnect with my own ‘why?’ I was motivated to make genuine, practical steps to return to my ‘thriving zone’. Özlem has ignited a spirit in me that was gradually fading from the pressures of motherhood & working life. Now I feel enthused and excited about the positive changes I am making. I have a clarity of thought that has been absent for years. I’ve been galvanised into action! It’s truly life-changing stuff!
Özlem is a women’s empowerment advocate, and has been actively working as a women’s self-leadership coach and mentor since 2012.
Özlem is the Founder of Spirit of Womankind – a lifestyle brand dedicated to supporting women starting their next chapter and seeking the kind of empowerment and inner confidence that comes from knowing your self and finding meaning and purpose in your life.
Through Spirit Of Womankind, Özlem shares her research and programs to inspire, guide and support women to design a life that is meaningful and true to themselves. Özlem is particularly passionate about self-care and believes it plays a pivotal role in helping to women to make empowered choices in their lives as it relates to self-esteem and self-respect.
Özlem began her career as a Certified Practising Accountant (CPA) and spent over 15 years in the world of corporate accounting and global project management, which included secondments to the UK, India and Dubai. She understands the demands of corporate life. She holds a Bachelor of Business from the University of Technology, Sydney (UTS), and is also certified in several coaching and holistic modalities designed to empower individuals with self-awareness, emotional intelligence, mindfulness and the integration of body, mind and spirit. She believes that we need to bring our whole selves to work in order for individuals, businesses and, ultimately, for societies to thrive.
Outside of work, Özlem loves yoga, travelling, appreciating beauty in art and nature, listening to world music, the fusion of commerce and philanthropy, finding beautiful socially-conscious products, and reading lots of books, as well as poetry by Rumi.